R@J aur Sweety ka Scribble Pad

Back in Nov 2024, when we were trying to figure out a path forward for our relationship, Raj had said “Love can be an enabler, that can nourish our soul, and grow ...I want that.”  At that time, I understood his intent more as a goal we can aspire for and work towards. Now after 4 months, slowly I am realizing the effects of it. With changing times we have adapted to new ways to stay in touch and supporting each other to learn and grow together. It constantly surprises me how our love in subtle ways has enabled us to keep each other motivated and be accountable for the goals we have set for ourselves.  Along with that, our love has also been an inspiration to some creativity in areas that we have not tried before. Here is a result of one such inspiration.. मेरे ख्वाबों में देखु तेरी मुस्कराहट (I see your smile in my dreams) तू बन गया है मेरी जीवन का सहारा (You have become the support of my life) कोई हो या न हो मेरे पास (Whether there is someone or not with me) फिर भी जी ल...

Who knows our True Self? Do we ourselves know it?  With ever changing situations, circumstances and moods when do we exhibit our True Self?  Is True Self just an idea of how we want to portray ourselves?  This is what I came across while I was searching answers to these questions above.. "Being authentic means sticking to our values, and our beliefs, even when faced with pressure to act otherwise, being honest to ourselves and taking responsibility for our actions." In our daily lives being around family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers how many of us exhibit our authentic self? I think most of us are wearing a mask while projecting ourselves to be different people at different instances of time based on situations and moods.  When are we our True Self? The most important factor that enables us to be our authentic self is courage to unapologetically accept who we are and express our opinions, thoughts, choices and behaviors without the fear of judgement and con...

It is tempting. When we see someone we care for is making decisions or has made a decision contrary to what we would have  our instinct tries to tell them what to do  Maturity lies in stepping back and trusting that people are mature enough to figure out what to do At the end of the day, it is their life, it is their choice  it’s more valuable to provide support and encouragement without giving unsolicited advice Give people space to make their own decisions,  even if they decide to take the scenic route that we  definitely wouldn’t have chosen Good or bad, it leads them down paths that they themselves have chosen they’ll probably make it to the end with a few bumps and a lot of lessons. Remember, the last thing we want to do is say "I told you so"

We cannot tell anyone about that one person with whom we share everything  Society often has its own rules or expectations, and societal rules about what’s "acceptable" or "normal" can be restrictive. Relationships are indeed complex and don't fit into what society finds acceptable.  The deepest bonds are the ones that remain outside the lens of society’s expectations, and the beauty of those relationships lies in their privacy. We confide when there is quiet understanding and unspoken trust, where we can just be without being judged or seeking validation.  The world is never going to agree on a definition of who you are.  We will always be brave in someone's mind and coward in another's, strong to one and fragile to another, good to one and terrible to another. We will be seen as annoying to one and comforting to another. Some will feel anxious around us and some will find peace in our company. Some will see us as "too much" while others wil...

All of us are guilty of bending the reality. At times, the truth feels too harsh or overwhelming and People bend reality believing that it can hopefully shield us from the pain of confronting an uncomfortable reality. Bending reality has both its pros and cons. Denial, self-deception, or reinterpretation, can serve as a protective mechanism, allowing us to navigate difficult situations or emotions. but there’s also a danger in it as it might prevent us from truly facing what's happening or growing from it. Some just bend enough to make peace while some bend it like Beckham. Either way our moral compass decides the degree of the bend. I wonder if people ever introspect and gauge how much is too much?

This weekend, I was pondering if I talk too much? The balance between speaking up and knowing when to hold back can be tricky, especially in an office setting. People can feel the pressure to speak up just to be noticed or show they're contributing. People often speak to fill up space rather than speak when they have something valuable or thoughtful to add. Thinking about this I have come to realize, I  talk less but I do have an opportunity to reduce even more -  the more we experience the less we speak.  It’s not because I have less to say, but because I understand more deeply that not every thought needs to be voiced - Intelligent people listen a lot more and speak only when absolutely necessary. - They share advice only when asked - Feedback is a gift. don't waste a gift by giving it to people who you don't care about

Today, I listened to the audiobook The Elephant in Our Mind: Uncovering the Truth Behind Our Actions , and it really got me thinking. In Chapter Two, the author explores how we often weave stories about our choices, painting ourselves either as heroes or victims. This art of justification helps us align our past decisions with our present self. But here's the catch: these stories can distort the truth. One of the key concepts discussed is hindsight bias —a memory distortion that makes us believe we "knew it all along." In other words, based on what we know now, we tend to convince ourselves that we always saw the outcome coming. What struck me the most is how the stories we tell ourselves are shaped by the lenses we choose to view events. We tend to justify our actions by looking at them through a particular filter—often influenced by current beliefs or emotions. The author suggests an alternative approach: journaling the pivotal moments in our lives as they are , without...

There is no bigger wealth in this world than peace of mind No matter how much money or possessions you have, If your mind is still restless you are unsuccessful We realize the importance of what we have only when we no longer have it Time and circumstances can shift in the blink of an eye. Don't get too caught up in moments of excessive joy or sorrow. Fly high if you don't want to be bothered with the small tree obstacles  If we speak too much, we will lie, a fish with its mouth shut will never be hooked if we think too much we will be depressed or obsessed People call me up for advice, just because I advise them does not mean I am smarter than them, I just have made more mistakes than them In fact, they are smarter because they take advise 

 During Makar Sankranti, flying kites is a popular tradition across India, a vibrant part of the festival that marks the transition of the Sun into the zodiac sign of Capricorn (Makar). This event signals the end of winter, the arrival of longer days, and the beginning of the harvest season. People fly kites for several reasons, both symbolic and celebratory. It is believed that the act of flying kites on Makar Sankranti represents the elevation of one’s spirit. As the kites soar high into the sky, they symbolize the soul’s journey toward the divine, aiming for a higher purpose or enlightenment. The bright, vibrant kites also stand as a symbol of the triumph of light over darkness, with the longer days following the winter solstice. It’s a celebration of hope, renewal, and the start of new beginnings. People often begin flying kites a week before Sankranti and continue for a couple of days after, creating an atmosphere of joy and excitement. As I was walking Kuku last week, I notic...

In one of my conversations with Sweety, I realized, "God gives me what I need when I need it", It could be sending me people, or finding material (in blogs, magazines, or in social media) or just things that enable me to get something done or just reminders about doing something that may have slipped my mind. Sometimes, I wonder if it is about a grand miracle/dramatic intervention or if it's more subtle. It does seem so perfectly timed that it feels too synchronized to be a mere coincidence. The Timing is just divine. When things arrive, they are rarely early and never too late. It's that sweet spot where the lesson or help can be fully absorbed and utilized. I've noticed these interventions come in various forms: - The Right People at the Right Time Like when Sweety and I have some conversation – it may be just some normal chat but later when I think about it - it was the clarity I didn't even know I needed. Then there are some people who enter our lives brie...